Exploring new places never gets old. You get to meet new people, eat different foods, and experience something that you’ve never experienced before. The one thing that can put a damper on things is if you’re travelling without your partner. Whether that’s because the relationship is still too new for a first vacation, your schedules didn’t match, or if it was a friends-only trip, you’re bound to miss the person you’re in love with. If you want to reach out to them, but aren’t sure where to start, there are a few tips that can help you out with that.
Keep It Lighthearted
The last thing you want to do is send off a string of messages complaining about being lonely. It can make your partner feel bad, and it doesn’t really help the situation anyway because they’re alone too and just miles away from you. Evoking positive feelings in your partner is a great way to get them thinking about you, and hopefully feeling better because of it. It’s more likely that he’ll think about you more if he gets a flirty, sexy, or romantic text. It’ll put a smile on his face, and make him want to send something back. You don’t want to get too cheesy with your messages, but if you’re not receiving any from your partner then try sending out a string of short messages that reference various levels of intimacy.
Send A Pic
Nothing too racy, of course. That said, if you’re just heading out and love the outfit you have on, or if you’re in an amazing location that you just know your partner will really like – snap a picture and send it to them. That way they’ll start to think about how much fun you’re having, but also get a nice visual of what it is that has your attention. If you happen to be in a nice going-out dress or a fun beach photo, well, all the better. A small funny caption or a mischievous joke can really brighten your partner’s day, without making it seem like you’re just fishing for compliments. You want the texting to feel like it’s about them as much as it is about you, so try to do it in a way where it’s less about demanding their attention, and more about you simply thinking of them.
Don’t Be Too Needy
On that note, you don’t want to text or call your partner constantly. Sure, you’re off having fun, but they more than likely still have their work to do. Besides, it’s always a good idea to give the person you’re with a bit of space – you don’t want to seem overbearing, especially if it’s a new thing you have going on. Unless you know that’s something your partner really enjoys – in which case, more power to you – you don’t want to come across as needy or clingy. It’s not cute, and it may be the difference between your partner wanting to respond or just ignoring you for a while. If you’ve already sent them a message today, and the response you received wasn’t really conducive for further communication, put the phone down and enjoy your trip. You can always talk more tomorrow.
Ask About Their Day
When you’re travelling, it can be easy to get caught up in all the beautiful things you’ve seen and the fun activities you’ve experienced. Try to put on the brakes and ask your partner about his day – what’s he done? What’s she been up to? Even if it seems small, or as though it hasn’t been an exciting day, just hearing about your partner’s daily routine can be great. Providing your partner with positive attention will remind them that you’re thinking of them and that they’re not just a prop for you to talk about yourself. You can even get bonus points if you remember if they’ve had something specific they planned on doing that day, and ask about how that went. Showing that you listen, care, and want to learn more in a way that puts your partner at the forefront of the conversation is a great way to get a good back and forth going.
Nighttime Routine
If you guys have been together for a while now, especially if you already live together, developing a new nighttime routine might be the way to go. Additionally, if you’re currently in different time zones, texting during the day might not really work out, so having a specific time set to catch up and check in with one another is a good idea. If you think about it, there’s probably something very comforting and intimate about ending your day with the same person – even if they’re not physically in the same room as you, having that shared time can feel very romantic and loving to anyone who has ever had a partner before. Even if just for 10 minutes, it would be great to talk about your day, what you’re planning to do tomorrow, and see how the other person is doing. It doesn’t have too be long or too involved – just let your partner know they’re on your mind, and hopefully it will carry you easily through until morning.
Video Calls
Starting a video call with your partner while you’re getting ready to go out can be a great way to stay in touch, let them know what you’re up to that night, and have a little bit of fun. Similarly, if you’re at a place you know they’ll love the view of – whether that’s a specific landmark or a nature scene – send them a quick vid so they can share in the fun. Of course, always be mindful that they might not have the time for that right at that moment, so it’s always better to ask if they’re up for it in advance. That way you can respect their schedule and boundaries while still letting them know you’re excited about where you are and what you’re doing and thinking of them.
Just because you’re away from your partner doesn’t mean you have to let your relationship go. Having a phone or video chat is always fun, especially if you guys are into flirting through texts, and that’s just something else for everyone to look forward to when you’re away, and that’s sweet all on its own. Keep your relationship healthy and fun by showing your best self whenever possible, no matter where you are or what you’re doing. Just make sure to communicate in ways they’ll appreciate and be receptive to, respect their boundaries when asked, and always ask if there’s something you can do for them before assuming there isn’t.
